The Failure

I want to know if you can live with failure, 

yours and mine, 

and still stand on the edge of the lake

and shout to the silver of the moon, 

“YES”.

The author of the Invitation says that real mistakes are genuine errors in judgment, and choices that can seen, with the knowledge of hindsight, not to have been the best.  We have all made them.  Not the kind of mistakes where we were misinformed or lacking of enough information.  The real ones where we screw up, despite our better knowing.

The real work of failures is to not deny them, or insist that there are no mistakes.  You may have heard people say that everything happens for a reason, or that good things come from the struggles. I wholeheartedly agree with this…up to a point. I do believe that the Divine works in mysterious ways with a purpose, but I also believe that we are fully responsible for our choices and what we do with what life offers.

We cannot live fully and at the same time avoid mistakes. Sometimes it may seem so much easier to overlook the failures and instead to hide them in some form. Refusing to acknowledge our failures is often an attempt to avoid shame.  That awful feeling we might get when we realize that at our core, we have failed and screwed up.  Ownership means that we do not blame others for our faults and screw ups. It means that we do not justify them as a result of my upbringing or story.  Instead to truly to own them.

The big question related to failure that I ask myself is can I live with my failures and still say “YES” to life, still feel worthy of love all that surrounds me.  The answer for me comes from the space of forgiveness. To allow love to move through me.

I know that many times I failed when my kids were little.  There we things that I did out of being clueless and then there were things that I did that were just mistakes. I am not going to justify them by saying I was a young mom with three little kids, or that I was overwhelmed, or that my marriage was empty, or that we were poor, or that I was burdened.  Instead I am going to love myself enough to say that I screwed up. At times I made choices that failed them, and failed me. But we all overcame them and despite the failures my kids turned out to be amazing people.  And I turned out amazing, too.  I came out of the failures so willing to say yes to life and to keep forging a path that brings me joy and contentment.

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Lifestyle Changes

Time for some Monday motivation?

The new year is around the corner and that is when many people look to making lifestyle changes. As a wellness coach I have walked the path and am grateful that at one point in my life I was burdened by weight.

For me, it wasn’t just the physical weight I was carrying that I wanted to shed. There was so much inner work that I did and as a result my radiant self emerged.

The first picture was taken six months after my first son was born—I was terrified and overwhelmed. A young 20 year old mom with a kid and a mortgage was a little daunting. I dove into motherhood and completely forgot about myself. I soon had two more kids and a bigger mortgage. It wasn’t until I was in my 30’s that I began to see myself as important and in need of self-care.

I started with walking daily (which I continue to this day) and I started making choices around food. I also started to really do the inner work that was required. I often say “I woke up”. And in that awakening, I truly began to emerge from the outer shell that I had placed around me.

As I began to shine my life began to change dramatically. There is a vibrancy to my essence that was not able to be felt when I was burdened by the heaviness physically and emotionally.

I’d love to walk along side you in your emerging and be there to guide you when it gets hard. My services include more than just yoga. I also offer wellness coaching and a holistic approach to health. It is never just about the weight and I would love to partner with you to reveal the inner parts of yourself that can be found with a solid plan.

Let’s do this!

Third Chakra

This morning I sat to plan my week and get centered heading into it. Sunday mornings are my usual time to get grounded and make plans and review my goals.

I also often pull angel cards and sometimes tarot cards. I giggled when the one card I pulled out of 65 to guide my present situation was the solar plexus chakra! I giggled because this is the chakra we are diving into this week in my home studio.

The third chakra—solar plexus—is a powerful one. Located in the area of the solar plexus, navel, and the digestive system, the fiery third chakra is called Manipura, the “lustrous gem.” Associated with the color yellow, this chakra is involved in self-esteem, warrior energy, and the power of transformation; it also governs digestion and metabolism. A healthy, spirited third chakra supports us in overcoming inertia, jump-starting our “get-up-and-go” attitude so that we can take risks, assert our will, and assume responsibility for our life. This chakra is also the place of our deep belly laughter, warmth, ease, and the vitality we receive from performing selfless service.

Some signs that the Solar Plexus Chakra is out of balance are:

Difficulty concentrating

Poor ability to make decisions or judge a situation accurately

A feeling that you are more important than other people

Trouble taking action or getting things done

To bring balance to the third chakra, a yoga practice focusing on strengthening the abdominal muscles, warrior postures and the breath of fire are helpful. Essentials oils that are spicy and supportive of the digestive system are helpful (ginger, coriander, clove and cinnamon) along with gemstones like citrine or topaz.

It’s going to be an awesome week! I feel the power and excitement of the third chakra driving me this week in my personal power and choice!

Vibrant Self

See this face? This is my 47 year old face who is so incredibly grateful to coming back into my Self.

I have lived fifteen years (or more) with an autoimmune disease. I also had multiple joint surgeries in my thirties and recently had three major hip tissue reconstruction surgeries. I am FINALLY my vibrant self again. I am back to doing things I love, like hiking. (You can follow me on Instagram to see my adventures)

The toll of chronic pain has been grueling for my mind, body and spirit. Over the years I lost people, relationships and even myself for awhile dealing with the pain and it’s effects on my life. I also had some steady friends and loved ones who never wavered at loving and showing up for me. In addition to more patience and acts of surrender than I could have ever imagined needing, I turned to my beloved essential oils to help me. For many years I just used oils because they smelled good. As I started doing my own research and playing with combos, I found the perfect blend for my body. The result—this vibrant gal is BACK and loving her pain free life.

Curious what my powerful anti-inflammatory and antioxidant combo is?

tumeric

pink pepper

copaiba

yarrow

DDR prime

I choose to only use doTERRA essential oils. Using less pure or store bought may not have the same benefits and are not recommended for internal use.

These oils are available in a special kit that is a huge bundled savings. You also get some amazing other products in the kit too! And a free car diffuser and three citrus oils.

If you’re ready to bring back your vibrant self too, message me and I will hook you up with the same oils that are helping me and access to my great community.

Why a Carrier Oil?

When using essential oils topically, I prefer to blend with fractionated coconut oil. FCO is odorless, non-greasy, absorbs easily and doesn’t go rancid quickly. I use roller bottles for essential oils I use often; this gives me oils with a carrier and helps to stretch out my oils over time.

Why use a carrier?

Although essential oils are readily absorbed, there are many ways to increase absorption. Using a light massage will increase the blood flow to the area of application, in turn improving distribution throughout the body. Also, use of a carrier oil can also increase absorption, especially in skin that is dry or flaky as it helps moisturize the skin and slow evaporation of the oil. Giving the essential oil a carrier to “grab” onto will also prevent the molecules of the EO to evaporate before going deep into the skin for benefit.

To decrease the likelihood of developing a skin sensitivity, especially on young or sensitive skin, it is advisable to use a carrier oil to dilute more potent oils and when trying an oil for the first time. The recommend dilution ratio is typically one drop of essential oil to three drops of carrier oil.It’s always advisable to use several small doses throughout the day rather than a single large dose. Start with the lowest possible dose (1–2 drops). A topical dose can be repeated every 4–6 hours as needed. Because every individual is unique, the dose will vary for each individual based on size, age, and overall health status.

Beneficial Areas You Can Apply Essential Oils:

•Neck
•Forehead and temples
•Chest and abdomen
•Arms, legs, bottom of feet.

Be cautious and avoid some facial areas, such as the skin around the eyes, and broken, damaged, or otherwise injured skin.

Interested in learning more? Check out this handy guide.

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