Gratitude has the power to shift our perspective, calm our nervous system, and bring us back to what truly matters. That’s why I’m so excited to share my new Daily Drop of Gratitude series — short 3–5 minute guided meditations now available on the Insight Timer app.
This series was created to help you pause each day and reconnect with gratitude in a simple, approachable way. No matter how busy life feels, you can take just a few mindful minutes to cultivate appreciation — and let that ripple out into the rest of your day.
Why Gratitude?
Science shows that practicing gratitude regularly can:
Reduce stress and anxiety
Improve sleep and overall well-being
Strengthen relationships and connection
Foster resilience, even in challenging times
A daily gratitude practice doesn’t need to be long or complicated. Even just a few mindful breaths of appreciation can change the tone of your entire day.
What to Expect in the Daily Drop of Gratitude
Each day, you’ll be guided through a short practice centered around a theme of gratitude — for your breath, your body, nature, connection, lessons learned, the present moment, and for life itself. These meditations are designed to be approachable, whether you’re brand-new to meditation or already have a practice.
Each session includes:
A gentle moment to settle in
A focused reflection on gratitude
A short closing to carry gratitude into your day
The beauty of this series is in its simplicity: just 3–5 minutes a day is enough.
How to Begin
All you need is a quiet space and a few minutes. Open the Insight Timer app, search for Daily Drop of Gratitude, and choose a session that calls to you. You can listen in the morning to set the tone for your day, or at night as a gentle reflection before sleep.
Join Me in Gratitude
My hope is that this practice helps you build a habit of gratitude that feels supportive and nourishing. When we pause to notice and appreciate the good — big or small — we align ourselves with joy, peace, and presence.
I’d love for you to join me for this series and make gratitude a daily ritual. Sometimes, the smallest moments have the biggest impact.
? Ready to begin? Subscribe to me on the Insight Timer app and take your first mindful step into gratitude today. The Daily Drop of Gratitude will be uploaded soon!
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Gratitude: How Science Proves It Nourishes Mind, Body, and Spirit
Life has a way of placing us in seasons of challenge. During those times, it can feel almost impossible to see beyond the weight we carry. Yet, one practice has consistently shown itself as a lifeline for the human heart: gratitude.
Gratitude isn’t just a spiritual idea or a “feel good” phrase — it is scientifically proven to reshape our brains, support our bodies, and uplift our spirits. In moments when life feels heavy, gratitude becomes both anchor and medicine.
Gratitude and the Mind: Rewiring for Resilience
Studies using brain imaging have shown that gratitude practice activates the prefrontal cortex — the part of the brain linked to decision-making, focus, and emotional regulation. Regular gratitude journaling can even strengthen neural pathways, making it easier to notice positives in the midst of difficulty.
In fact, research from the University of California found that people who wrote down things they were grateful for each week reported fewer physical complaints and greater optimism than those who didn’t. Gratitude literally shifts our mental lens from “what is wrong” to “what is still good.”
Gratitude and the Body: A Calming Force
The benefits of gratitude extend well beyond the mind. Practicing gratitude has been shown to:
Lower blood pressure
Improve heart health
Support stronger immunity
Enhance sleep quality
When we pause and truly give thanks, the nervous system moves out of stress mode. The body softens, cortisol decreases, and we shift into a state of rest and repair. Gratitude is not only felt in the heart — it is carried through every cell of the body.
Gratitude and the Spirit: A Bridge of Hope
Beyond measurable outcomes, gratitude carries us into the realm of spirit. In seasons of loss, illness, or uncertainty, gratitude gently reminds us that beauty and connection still exist. It helps us hold both pain and possibility at once.
Spiritually, gratitude becomes a bridge — connecting us to others, to the present moment, and to something greater than ourselves. It’s a quiet act of faith, a whisper that says: Even here, even now, I can find light.
Practicing Gratitude in Hard Times
When challenges feel overwhelming, start small:
One breath, one blessing: Name a single thing you are thankful for as you inhale.
Gratitude journaling: Write down three things each night, no matter how small.
Verbal thanks: Speak appreciation to someone you love — it magnifies connection.
Body gratitude: Place your hand on your heart and thank your body for carrying you through.
Gratitude is not about ignoring hardship — it is about strengthening the spirit to meet it.
Closing Reflection
Gratitude is both science and soul. It quiets the nervous system, rewires the brain, strengthens the body, and uplifts the spirit. Especially during times of challenge, gratitude doesn’t erase our struggles, but it lights a lantern to guide us through them.
So tonight, perhaps write one line in your journal or whisper a thank you before sleep. It may be the simplest practice — and the most profound medicine — you ever give yourself.
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Lately, I’ve been leaning into the idea of becoming obsessively grateful—the kind of gratitude that isn’t reserved for big, shiny moments but instead floods every corner of the day. The warm mug in my hands. The way the morning light filters through the leaves. The laughter shared with a friend. The tender heartbeat of my own body carrying me through challenges I never imagined I could face.
I’ve noticed that the more I train my mind to seek these moments, the more they multiply. Gratitude, it turns out, isn’t passive. It’s alive, active, and transformative. It shifts the lens through which we see the world, softening sharp edges and turning the ordinary into something sacred.
What if we all became obsessively grateful? Not in a performative or toxic positivity kind of way, but in a grounded, heart-centered practice of noticing beauty and giving thanks for it all—the hard, the sweet, and everything in between.
Today, I’m pausing to whisper a quiet thank you to:
The flowers blooming despite the heat. The resilience of my body as it continues to heal. My little fur companion who brings joy with every soft pawstep. And to this very breath, because it means I’m still here.
What are you obsessively grateful for today? I’d love to hear.
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Gratitude as a Path to Abundance: More Than Just Money
When we hear the word “abundance,” our minds often leap to money, success, and material gain. But true abundance is much deeper than what we can count or measure. It’s the feeling of contentment after a good laugh, the peace of morning sunlight, the love in a quiet hug. Abundance, at its core, is a state of being.
Gratitude helps us see what’s already here. It softens our striving and reminds us of the everyday miracles we might overlook. With gratitude, we begin to notice the richness in our lives that has nothing to do with wealth or possessions.
Ways to Recognize Non-Tangible Abundance:
A conversation that nourishes the soul
The scent of blooming flowers in spring
A moment of silence where everything feels okay
A deep breath after a hard day
The inner strength that carried you through a storm
Practicing gratitude doesn’t mean ignoring challenges or pretending everything is perfect. It means making space to honor what’s good—even when life is messy.
A Simple Gratitude Practice:
Each evening this week, write down three things you’re grateful for that can’t be bought. Let this shift your awareness from “more” to “enough.” You might be surprised at how abundant your life already is.
Affirmation:
I honor the richness of my life. I am surrounded by quiet abundance.
Abundance blooms when we realize how much we already hold. Gratitude is the doorway.
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As I approach the one-year mark since my hip replacement surgery, I find myself reflecting on the journey.. This past year of hip replacement recovery has been a profound teacher, showing me the power of patience, resilience, and self-compassion. I’ve learned that healing isn’t linear; some days feel like giant leaps forward, while others require grace for the setbacks.
Strength doesn’t just come from physical therapy but also from the mindset we cultivate. What has been most helpful is staying consistent with gratitude, listening to my body’s cues, and surrounding myself with support—whether from professionals, loved ones, or fellow warriors on a similar path. On the other hand, what hasn’t been helpful is the pressure to “bounce back” quickly or compare my progress to others. Healing happens in its own time, and learning to honor that has been one of the greatest lessons of all.
I believe that beyond the practical advice we are given for recovering from a total hip replacement, if we learned to add mindfulness into the process we will embrace whatever comes our way. Mindful recovery means we look deeply at our thoughts, words and actions everyday.
Through reflection and mindfulness I have looked back at this year and created what I have found to be helpful and not helpful, and the lessons I have learned.
What is Helpful
I have spent the last year learning what is helpful in my recovery. In addition to a daily gratitude practice, here are my top perspective take-aways:
Hearing the words “I am sorry” goes a long, long way when you are in a challenging situation
Being asked “how can I help” feels so supportive
Having someone ask questions like “how are you doing emotionally” can be game changers
What is NOT Helpful
On the other side of what is helpful, I found things completely not helpful. Here is my quick list:
Blaming the doctor, the hospital or the patient serves no good
Suggesting that I sue the surgeon or the hospital is a waste of time
Comparing my experience with anyone else’s
Being exposed to negativity and toxic energy
Hearing “you’ll be fine” or “tomorrow will be better”
Life’s challenges often serve as our greatest teachers, offering lessons that shape our resilience, perspective, and inner strength. Difficult experiences push us beyond our comfort zones, forcing us to adapt, grow, and find meaning in hardship. While struggles can feel overwhelming in the moment, they often reveal our capacity for perseverance and self-discovery.
Through these trials, we learn the importance of patience, self-compassion, and the support of others. Every setback carries a hidden lesson, whether it’s the value of slowing down, the power of gratitude, or the realization that we are stronger than we ever imagined. In the end, challenges don’t define us—they refine us.
Lessons Learned
I was able to reflect on the last year and compile my top lessons that I have learned. Here they are:
Every single day you MUST find joy
Learning to ask for help can be the greatest gift you can give yourself
Accepting help from others can be good for you and others
Practicing the great pause
In this video I capture the details of the helpful and not helpful thoughts as well as the lessons learned. I also give the much anticipated update and next steps for my recovery. Sadly, another surgery is around the corner.
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“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today and creates a vision for tomorrow.” – Melodie Beattie
Dear Friends,
This is a special time of year when we find ourselves being more thankful and extra appreciative. A deliberate practice of gratitude can truly change your life. Many years ago I began a daily gratitude journal and after a short time I realized that throughout my day I was looking for things to be able to write down in my journal. What a life-changer to be on the look-out for what is good versus what is lack. In times of fear or sadness, I can open up a past journal and be reminded of all that I really do have in my life.
Research says that a gratitude practice can boost the neurotransmitter serotonin and activate the brain stem to produce dopamine. Dopamine is our brain’s pleasure chemical. The more we think positive, grateful thoughts, the healthier and happier we feel. Amazing, eh?
When we think of abundance we often think of the tangible, material, often obvious things in our life to be grateful for; house, food, car, employment, etc. I would like to offer up acknowledging the abundance of less visible things, such as the love you feel for someone, the colors that surround your life, the sounds of music and laughter, the aroma that fills your home from a hearty soup, or the growth that you have shown this year.
I have a few ways you can join me in developing a mindfulness practice and maintaining a grateful heart. I am sharing my 10 days of Gratitude Virtual Yoga Series and I have created a fun Mindfulness group that will give you daily tips!
Soak in all that is untouchable. Fill your heart with the fullness of simply being alive and experiencing the sensations each day offers. I often use my five senses to tap into abundance in any given moment. Think about what you have touched, tasted, smelled, heard and seen just today!
As I reflect on my life, I know for sure that I am incredibly thankful for the path that has led me to each of you. What a journey the last seventeen years has been!
Always grateful,
Stacie
For it is in giving that we receive. ~ Francis of Assissi
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The evidence for the impact of gratitude isn’t just anecdotal. There is scientific evidence for the benefits of gratitude. There have been numerous studies on the effects of gratitude. It’s been scientifically proven to improve the lives of those who practice it.
However, as the cold winds begin to blow, we know we must hold on tight to our branches until it’s our time to fall. It’s interesting because none of us want to drop. We just want to stay in our spot, high above the ground and admire the magnificent atmosphere fall brings.
1.Gratitude Makes You Mentally Stronger Living a grateful lifestyle can make you mentally tougher. It doesn’t mean you won’t still have to deal with stress. It just means that you’ll be able to deal with it much easier. Stress won’t have as debilitating an effect if you’re practicing gratitude regularly. In one study, it was shown that Vietnam veterans who suffered from post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) fared much better when they practiced gratitude. As a matter of fact, the study made it clear that the veterans who practiced gratitude were able to cope with their condition much more effectively than those who didn’t.
2.Gratitude Makes You Healthier. Gratitude is not only great for your mental health, it can help you physically too. It can boost your immune system and make it easier for you to adopt healthier habits. It’s been shown that those who practice gratitude also participate in other healthy activities such as exercising and eating healthier. In another study, it was shown that gratitude has other health benefits. In this study, people who suffered from neuromuscular disorders were examined. The group that wrote in a gratitude journal daily were found to be much healthier than the control group. They also slept better and reported fewer health symptoms.
3.Gratitude Makes You More Productive. Robert A. Emmons, one of the leading authorities on the science of gratitude said this about one of his studies: “Participants who kept gratitude lists were more likely to have made progress toward important personal goals (academic, interpersonal and health-based) over a two-month period compared to subjects in the other experimental conditions.”
4. Gratitude Makes You Happier. Focusing on the things that are going right in our lives is absolutely crucial if you’re going to be happy. After all, how can you be happy if you always focus on the negative parts of your life? Gratitude enables you to really see how blessed you truly are.
5. Gratitude Allows You To Impact Others. Everyone wants to feel like they matter. It’s the reason we do many of the things we do. When we help others, we feel a sense of significance. When you express heartfelt gratitude to someone else, you are showing them how important they really are. You’re drawing attention to an action they took that made your life better.
Thank You
So many of you have been so supportive of me during this unusual time in our lives. I am so blessed that I can continue to share my passion and touch your life. It means a lot to me that you know that you are very important to me, and I am incredibly grateful that our paths have crossed. I believe that now more than ever, we need to recognize the people and meaningful connections that we all have.
As always, it is my hope that you stay healthy and happy in your mind, body and spirit.
Living with chronic pain can feel overwhelming but when you put a few tools into your toolbox you can start to feel empowered versus defeated. I have found combining traditional treatment with some holistic approaches is the perfect balance for living with chronic pain.
When I was first referred to a pain management specialist I was in my mid-thirties and had no real idea what it all meant. I knew that I was there to address chronic and ongoing back pain but was a little clueless about empowering myself with a few tools to help manage the pain. Over time I have gathered quite a bit of knowledge and found what works for me.
Tools for Living with Chronic Pain
A holistic approach to living with chronic pain means you bring together a variety of tools to help support you. Being open to trying things is key when looking for the right tool for you. Here are my top four tools in my toolbox.
Gratitude
Please don’t skip past this part because you think that there is no way gratitude can help your physical pain. Hear me out. Gratitude CAN in fact reroute your thinking from dwelling on pain to a better place. Get yourself a small notebook, a free app, or a document section on your computer and start with 3-5 things each day you are thankful for, and why. Listing off your family, friends, house and dog is fine and dandy, but discovering the feeling that is evoked in your is where the magic really is. Next, do a quick google search on the benefits of gratitude and you might just be convinced to give it a try. It is my #1 tool I reach for time and time again to help me live my best life while also living with chronic pain.
Self-Care
Find something, anything, that gives you comfort and joy. Allow this self-care practice to evolve and change over time and circumstances, but no matter what, you MUST care for yourself. This can be something like a bubble bath, a special cup of tea, a massage, learning a new skill, reading a book, buying yourself a special lotion, or anything else that comforts you. This is a daily requirement.
Movement
Nearly two decades ago, my rheumatologist told me that if I don’t move it, I will lose it. While there are some days living with chronic pain it seems inconceivable that moving would make me feel better, but it truly does. I have a little rule I follow–if I sit for 30 minutes, I must move for 15 minutes. A lap around the block usually does it. This constant motion keeps my joints lubricated and my muscles supple. I also incorporate water exercises, yoga, and mild strength training into the mix. Motion is lotion and I am firm believer in that. Those individuals who succumb to the aches and pains and opt to binge on Netflix day after day are probably in more pain than they would be had they chosen to move a little more. Try it and you might be surprised.
Reframing Your Thoughts
It is a slippery slope to think about, talk about and identify with a diagnosis. Learning to be mindful in the thoughts and words we chose as it relates to our pain is a powerful tool. I have found that catching my self saying things that “feed” the pain and diagnosis is something that I needed to nip right away. Rather than saying, “my pain is killing me”, I opt to think or say “my pain is present and I need to do something about it”. Or I simply feel it and then move on. Becoming consumed with the details of the diagnosis can overwhelm you and you can quickly sink into identifying as the diagnosis and lose yourself.
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How can we maintain our strength and equilibrium in the face of our greatest challenge?
When we are going through a health challenge it is so important to remember that mindful healing is a big part of the successful outcome we wish for.
Tips & Tricks to Mindful Healing
Each morning I sit and read something with the intent to be inspired or at the minimum give me something to ponder throughout the day. This morning I reached for my Yoga 365 book and today’s passage was so aligned with a video I created yesterday. In the video I talk about the mindful ways we can bring an added element to our healing process.
For me specifically with my recent hip surgery, I am implementing a few strategies that doctors do not necessarily tell you when you are faced with a major surgery. While I greatly appreciate the practical things that a person needs, it is the nuances of daily living that I believe go quite far in the healing process.
Our mindset will greatly influence our mental health during any sort of healing process, whether it is a surgery, an illness or a major life upheaval.
These six mindful healing tips are perfect for anyone:
Keeping a daily routine.
If you have always been a person who gets up and reads, or meditates, or journals, or prays, then keep doing that. Don’t sacrifice your spiritual practice because your physical body is working hard to improve. Also, if you are a person that gets up every day and puts a little makeup on, then keep doing that. Taking care of yourself and helping yourself to feel somewhat “normal” during this temporary healing time will do wonders for your happiness factor. Finally, getting dressed everyday and getting out of your pajamas (even if you wear comfy house clothes), the simple act of getting up and dressed everyday will send a message to your brain that you are in fact getting better. Plus, you’ll look better and when we look better, we have a tendency to feel better. I am a huge fan of lipstick and mascara and not a single day has passed that I don’t take the five minutes to make myself feel beautiful.
Develop a mindset of gratitude.
Each day I spend a few minutes in deep gratitude for the surgeon and for the implant in my body. Even though I still have a lot of pain and mobility is hard, I am mindful each day to thank my body for accepting this new joint and welcoming it into my body. I am grateful for my cells moving around my body to encourage healing. I am grateful for my strong muscles that are working hard to regain their strength to support the new joint. When we shift our mindset from a pain point to a gratitude point, our entire mental outlook can shift. Sure, it would be easy to sit in my 3 days worn pajamas and mope that my body hasn’t healed as fast as what others have, and I could complain that the surgery must have somehow gone wrong, and my immune system is overactive causing extra pain, OR I could embrace this new challenge through the lens of gratitude and be intentional about loving this new body part.
Speak kindly to yourself and others.
We have all heard that kindness is the path to a better world. Speaking kindly about yourself and to yourself during this time of vulnerability is so important. Falling into the trap of self-pity, or worse self-defeating language will only slow your progress. For the people who are helping you, they are doing their very best to make sure that you are healing and comfortable and if you are a person who is usually very self-sufficient, it can be emotionally draining on your family and friends to see you in a different way. Be kind and thank them for every small thing that they are now doing for you. We have a tendency to be hardest on ourselves and those closest to us so remembering to speak kindly will be a huge asset to you.
Setting up your space.
The doctor will likely give you a few tips to get your home ready for when you come home from surgery–things like remove loose area rugs, move items to waist level, get your medications refilled, have a grabber for picking up dropped items, etc. These are all great and much needed suggestions, however I found a few more things that have helped me feel better. I made sure that the items I use regularly like essential oils, diffusers, herbal teas, supplements, hand lotion, and other self care items are accessible. I created a space in my house specifically for this healing process where I have a comfy chair, a basket of healthy snacks, a stash of essential oils, books, my iPad, beautiful plants, and plenty of chargers within one room. This eliminates the constant need for someone to run get something for me AND it gives my space the homey and comfortable feel. Imagine trying to heal in a cold, dark, sterile, or dingy environment. Yuck. Make your space pretty and just what YOU like because you are gonna be there a while.
You have to have movement.
Any type of movement to get circulation going is so imperative. If you have had hip surgery like me, move your upper body. If you have had shoulder surgery, move your lower body. At the minimum move your spine in all six directions once a day. It literally takes five minutes and will increase circulation, get your chi moving and make you feel good which are all good things when it comes to healing. Movement is medicine.
Start a new hobby.
You might be thinking that a new hobby right now is too overwhelming but the distraction will shift your awareness from hurting to something productive and potentially fun. If you have never been a big reader, now is a great time to download your free library app and start borrowing books, or ask to borrow books from friends. Maybe you have always wanted to learn how to knit or crochet. YouTube is filled with tutorials and Amazon delivers yarn and crochet hooks. Perhaps you have been wanting to take up writing your own blog on a topic you are passionate about. I have enjoyed crocheting, jigsaw puzzles on my iPad, digital planning, and making sourdough anything. The joy factor is increases while I am doing those activities and my mind is less focused on hurting.
Mindful Healing
These are easy ways to maintain your strength and equilibrium while faced with one of the hardest things you may ever go through. Mindful healing is something you can do! By redirecting my thoughts, speaking kindly, wearing my favorite shade of lipstick and clean clothes everyday, easy movements, eating healthy organic cashews and sipping tea, AND feeding my brain with wholesome hobbies while being SO grateful, I am on my way!
In a tradition I typically save for my personal journal on the eve of my birthday, I usually write a letter to myself to celebrate, and encourage the constant evolving that I choose to do. These are the words that came today as I reflected on my year and as I turn 53.
Dear beautiful self,
Another year wiser and with a few more wrinkles, I’ve seen you grow in your willingness to reach out and ask (and receive) help. I’ve seen you overcome challenges that were unexpected, and do it with grace and gratitude. I watched you grow your business and become more confident and more self-assured in what you’re here to do. I’ve seen you stay consistent with your strength training program, sometimes battling the pain like wielding a sword against an enemy. I’ve seen you be generous and kind to those who may not have always deserved it. I watched you demonstrate bravery in extremely challenging situations.
As you continue to age, I see you learning to ride the waves of the process of the body changing. I see you worry about the things that you may not have control over and I hope that you remember that like fine wine and good cheese, the aging process just gets better.
I hope that this coming year you will continue to embrace all of you. You will navigate what life hands you with tremendous courage, and also an openness to staying with vulnerability. Your determination to find equanimity—or the balance between effort and ease—will be something that becomes quite easy for you if you stay the course.
Margin is the space between our load and our limits. It is the amount allowed beyond that which is needed. It is something held in reserve for contingencies or unanticipated situations. Margin is the gap between rest and exhaustion, the space between breathing freely and suffocating.
I stumbled across this and it hit me right in the heart.
We’ve all heard the term “having a boundary.” In fact, these days it common lingo when it comes to self care. Several years ago a dear friend of mine talked to me about the word boundaries versus margins. A boundary is something that keeps someone or certain things away from you. Whereas, a margin is what you choose to allow in.
We need boundaries to obviously at times. Here is where:
To keep away things that are dangerous to us or could be harmful.
To keep toxic people away from us.
Around our personal and work time.
Those are important things for sure. But I’m really looking at the difference between what I protect and keep away, to what I invite and allow in.
What I choose to put inside my margins feels empowering unlike a boundary which feels harsh and cold.
As I begin this new year with seeking equanimity in my life, I’m really paying close attention to what I put inside the margins. As a person who gives so much all the time, I’m learning to give to myself a little, too. Over the last year, I really learned to listen to the things in my life that feed me or drain me. My intention is never to hurt someone while navigating these margins. It can be challenging as I tend to put others needs first. The chronic people pleaser syndrome. I’m committed to putting me a little higher on the pleasing list.
In order to be deliberate with my time and energy, I’ve first identified a few key things. I needed to be really clear as to what drains me and what feeds me.
The things that drain me:
People. I say that with a hint of joking and quite a bit of truth. Considering that I am with people all day every day and again when I get home I’m with more people, it is imperative that I learn to listen to how much people can drain me. If given a choice to be alone or with people, it’s 99% certain that I’m going to choose to be alone.
Mindlessly walking through a department store for the sake of shopping. If I don’t know exactly what I need, there’s no way I’m going to walk into a store just to look. In fact, most of my shopping is done online. I have no interest in being in stores just to kill time.
Spending time in crowded places, unless it’s a crowded coffee shop by myself. Again, partially joking here and a lot of truth. I love being in a crowded coffee shop if I’m by myself. Are we getting a theme here?
Loud and noisy places with lots of people. I’m not a huge fan of crowded spaces and I definitely don’t like to just be in a group of people for no purpose.
Loud music. Loud people. Loud environments.
The things that feed me:
Being alone.
Setting goals and creating action plans.
Making sourdough bread.
Spending time in my garden.
Long, solitary walks.
A jigsaw puzzle that allows my mind to wander.
Before saying yes to anything these days, I am learning to stop and ask myself the following—
Does the serve me today?
Will this feed me or drain me?
Am I saying yes to please someone else?
Does this feel good to me?
Margin is the space between load and limit. It is the amount allowed beyond that which is needed.
If it’s going to push me past my limit, then it’s a no. I’m trying really hard to recognize when my load is full and not add on anything that would break that limit. As I do things that feed me, my load reduces and I have space for more. Tuning inward to myself is key, then listening, and then choosing wisely.
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About Stacie
Stacie believes that it is her life purpose to share the gift of Yoga with anyone who is willing to say yes. In addition to raising a family and being an advocate for those with disabilities, Stacie is founder of Embracing Spirit Yoga which specializes in bringing adaptive Yoga into community centers and rehabilitation clinics. Bringing her depth of compassion to the mat–or the chair–she offers students the opportunity to grow as an individual in all aspects of their life.
With over sixteen years experience, Stacie Wyatt is an experienced 500 hour Registered Yoga Teacher with Yoga Alliance, Certified Brain Injury Specialist, Certified Trauma Informed Coach, Life Wellness Coach, Senior YogaFit Instructor, Mind/Body Personal trainer, Stress Reduction and Meditation Instructor, Pilates Instructor, and Barre Instructor. Stacie is also certified in Integrative Movement Therapy™and is also a believer in the power and application of essential oils for health and wellness and proudly shares doTERRA essential oils.
Stacie brings her personal life experience of raising a daughter with a disability and over 12 years working in special education to her everyday Yoga classes.
