A Love Affair

We all think we know what love is and what the definition is, but I resonate the most with how Brené Brown defines love–

We cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known, and when we honour the spiritual connection that grows from that offering with trust, respect, kindness and affection.

Love is not something we give or get, it is something that we nurture and grow, a connection that can only be cultivated between two people when it exists within each of them – we can only love others as much as we love ourselves.

For the first 30 years of my life I thought I knew what love was and that I was living as an example of love—dependable, reliable, giving, and selfless. I’ve come to now see that what I was really offering was anything but that. I was clueless, unaware, oblivious and at times, destructive.

Not to others.

To myself.

Back when I was young, married and raising three people I was completely asleep when it came to self love. I have come to realize now however that I simply did not like who I was, so loving me was not even close to being on my radar. I know now that when you love yourself, you take actions that care for yourself.

Back then I had no awareness that the fast food I was consuming and the sedentary life I was living was contributing to my very large body. I never connected that the heaviness I was in my body was a direct link to the heaviness in my emotions. I thought by being an amazing mom and wife I was all about love. And then I realized.

Not to myself.

When I began to what I like to refer to as “wake up” and get healthy, I started to like me. I was finding dark shadows that were lurking in my heart that were asking to be let out. I healed many things that were literally weighing me down. I forgave others. I accepted circumstances. I began to care for me.

The logistics in which I lost weight are simple–I changed my habits. I recognized what wasn’t working and made a very conscious decision to change it. Some of my strategies were this:

  • Eating meals on small plates
  • Chewing gum while I cooked
  • Teaching others to do their dishes
  • Putting trigger foods out of sight
  • Making sure my walking shoes were always with me
  • Changing routines to avoid mindless eating (taking long baths, going for a walk, learning to garden)

You see these simple changes were to avoid be being unconscious with snacking, portions, sedentary lifestyle choices and emotional eating. Many of these changes still remain part of my life.

By swapping out the mindless munching on snacks for bubble baths or a short walk, my mind was beginning to see the value in me. It is extraordinary what happens to a person’s soul when time is spent consistently alone on a walk. The changes that occurred both on the inside and outside were amazing.

I began noticing myself.

I have spent a decade and a half living like these habits—mindful eating, multiple daily walks, I even became a yoga and meditation teacher, and basically transformed myself from an angry obese woman to a healthy and happy woman.

A vibrant life was mine.

Then I got injured.

For the last seven years I have dealt with healing from four orthopedic surgeries and learning to live with chronic pain. This body that I had worked so hard to become healthy began to defile me. It was as if she was rebelling against this lifestyle of health and fitness. I began to feel a deep sadness for her.

While I have maintained a healthy weight for over 20 years, I have struggled with trusting my body. The multiple diagnoses felt at times like a betrayal. I mean, I spent a solid 10 adult years living on double cheeseburgers, fries and chicken nuggets without a stitch of pain or health issues.

I wondered many times why I began to develop inflammatory issues when I was now living my best life? I was loving my body’s ability to climb mountains, race bicycles, practice endless hours of yoga, walk miles and miles each day.

And yet, my body was struggling.

I have since learned to accept what is and have continued on living an extraordinary happy and healthy life. I still make daily choices around movement vs sitting, ice cream vs a single bite of dark chocolate, and binging on tv vs a long bubble bath. I’ve been extremely happy with the self love I have discovered by nurturing myself.

Loving myself.

The game changed about six months ago when I stumbled onto a strength training program. I was completely content with my body and it’s strength and flexibility-and my size- but was intrigued by this idea of committing to something new.

Questions of value immediately rose to the surface. The excuses were miles long. (I can’t do that because of my hip, that will hurt my ankle, I don’t need to do burpees, I don’t have enough weights, my body is “good enough”).

Deep down I knew that all of that internal dialogue didn’t sound much like loving myself. And I knew it.

So I began October 1st. A brand new love affair with myself. And like any new love there have bumps along the way—days I doubted myself and had some pretty bad words spoken, days I wanted to give up and go back to the inner narrative that I was “good enough”.

Those challenging days of the early love affair with my 51 year old self are gone. Now, I am in complete awe of what I have been able to do and overcome. I am happily shocked at the human body and it’s ability to transform. I am no longer held back by the story of age or injury and instead I am madly loving my ability and what I have achieved.

Not the amount of weight I can lift or the pushups I can now easily complete, but the confidence in my physical body to overcome pain, injury and doubt.

Amazing how much healing can happen when you say yes to YOU. Whether it is food choices, walking, yoga, mindfulness or even getting down with lifting weights learning to love myself has been a journey I am so grateful for.

I have found trust in myself. And isn’t trust a much needed part of love?

This new love affair is destined to last a long, long time and I couldn’t be happier.

Self-Care Series

School is back in session for most and that means many parents will have a little more time to think about themselves. For many, many, MANY years I neglected my own well being thinking that I was being a great mom by giving every ounce to my kids. Wrong.

Before long I was overweight, angry and exhausted.

Long ago, when someone mentioned to me the idea of practicing self-care, I had no idea what that could be and I had an immediate reaction that is was selfish.

Boy, have I ever come a long way.

Not sure what self-care looks like for you? For each of us it can mean so many things. There is no one-size fits all when it comes to self care.

The good news is, if you are not sure what self-care can be, I can help! I have an amazing virtual self-care package that includes a variety of tools to help YOU take care of YOU. And the best part? It is self paced and can be done on YOUR time, in YOUR space, but with my loving support.

Check this out! I’d love to walk alongside with you on finding YOU again.

Weight Loss and Essential Oils

Despite all out great intentions with food, we can still struggle with cravings. When I lost all my weight I had some big ‘behavior’ changes that I was intentional about, and many that have remained. I learned that most of my weight was sticking around from mindless eating and bad habits.

Some of the patterns that I broke and the strategies that I began included:

*using small size plates to trick my mind I was eating more
*I taught the kids to do their own dishes so I wasn’t mindlessly grabbing the abandoned chicken nugget
*I put snacks in the cabinet above the fridge so it literally took getting a stool which gave me time to think about if I really needed the crackers
*I measured EVERYTHING I ate
* I logged EVERYTHING that passed through my lips for 2.5 YEARS—this eventually became a leak of joy so I no longer do this
*I put my walking shoes in the doorway leading to house from garage so I would walk before even going in the door
*Rather than going to kitchen when I came home and snacked, I went straight to the bath tub. By the time I was done, it was time to cook dinner and I just saved hundreds of calories
* I chose wine over ice cream
*I decided that I was DONE being heavy and I was worth health

When I started using essential oils, I was so happy to learn that they can also support my physical body. I used oils in the beginning for the good smells, without any idea that they could have a health benefit.

Today, I use lemon daily for internal cleansing. I use grapefruit often for reducing cravings and internal cleansing. I also use a great blend called Slim & Sassy. I put a few drops in water or in a capsule and take internally. BUT, the best way that I use the this blend is a HACK that I learned about a month or so ago.

I purchase a bottle of fractionated coconut oil (FCO) and a bottle of Slim and Sassy and I empty the entire bottle of EO into the FCO and everyday I apply the oil to my stomach and my “trouble areas”. Over the month time, I have noticed that my skin is is tighter and I am slimmer. I have heard about people actually losing weight and inches doing this! I get the internal benefit as the oils are absorbed and the external benefit of better looking skin! Double win!

Check out and bookmark this handy little ebook  on the basic uses and safety of essential oils.  There are so many uses for your entire life…and the greatest thing is you being to eliminate some of the less healthy things in your life, too.

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Meditation and Essential Oils

Feeling stressed and overwhelmed? Meditation can calm the body, mind, and spirit. It can help us to connect more deeply with the worlds around and within us. It has been shown to have physical health benefits including lower heart rate and lower levels of stress. But sometimes, life’s distractions and our busy thoughts can make a meditation session challenging.

I love that essential oils may provide assistance with meditation. I know for me, I am continuing to practice stilling my mind, observing my breath and just learning to BE.

Aroma and fragrances have been an important part of rituals and meditations for ages in many cultures around the world.  In our super fast-paced and distracting world, sometimes we can use all the help we can get.

To use essential oils while meditating, there are several options: You can apply directly to the body–the space between your eye brows known as the third eye is a great option or your heart. You can also create a mist by putting oils and water into a small spray bottle  and spray the fragrance in the air, or you can use a diffuser. I really enjoy applying oils.

Here are my top 5 essential oils for meditation.

1. Frankincense: A holy fragrance if there ever was one, it’s believed to help you increase your faith and connection with spirit.

2. Myrrh: One of the highest sesquiterpene contents in an essential oil, myrrh directly stimulates the hypothalamus, pituitary and amygdalin glands to help reduce stress and bring focus. It’s uplifting scent can assist in deep spiritual “opening” while bringing calm and tranquility.

3. Cedarwood: Focus inward a bit more clearly with the help of cedarwood. It can also help to illuminate your need for meditation and return you to your spiritual path when obstacles have made it difficult.

4. Sandalwood: This oil is very helpful in healing, particularly emotional/spiritual wounds. It opens the heart and helps to promote trust.

5. Neroli: The potent floral fragrance of neroli can help you to be more self-accepting, face your fears and accept the work you need to do for yourself. It can also inspire creativity, particularly as it pertains to a spiritual practice.


If you are ready to start using essential oils, just go to:

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